All too often, brides and grooms try to include everyone in the wedding planning process. Or, parents who didn’t have the money to have a dream wedding of their own, decide that if they are funding this wedding, it’s going to be according to their own vision.
Decorators, caterers, dressmakers, florists, and bakers often get stuck in the middle of a family feud about what’s the best choice for a wedding in 2016. Frequently, young couples want a simple, progressive event designed to serve the tastes of their generation. Parents often want a wedding that is far too reminiscent of the grand affairs from the 1970s and 1980s.
Before meeting with all the vendors that will be working on your wedding, create a plan and make a decision-making scheme. Most vendors will tell you that ANY decision is better when it’s quickly selected. In fact, some of the best events come together when each person has a specific set of decisions. For example, the groom picks the menu, his mother selects the flowers, the bride’s father selects the venue, and the bride selects her own dress.
Most people don’t understand the stress associated with creating a successful event. And for the pair getting married, a slew of last minutes decisions, changes, and problems can often mean a difficult wedding day. So if you really want a stress-free wedding, ask your caterer to handle most of the decisions. Caterers are often at the core of a wedding day anyway, so they frequently act as a de-facto wedding planner. Simply handing over the majority of decisions to your caterer (including flowers, but maybe not the dress) means enjoying the day.
Often, the best answers for wedding questions is, “Sure. That’ll be fine.” With a more flexible approach, you can enjoy your wedding day and visit with your friends and family instead of worrying about what to do if the florist runs low on pink roses.