The Best Way to Choose Your Wedding Party

You want all of your best friends to be there on your special day but realize that you can’t have everyone in the wedding party. Who should you choose? How can you avoid causing hurt feelings? Here are some of the best tips for choosing your wedding party.

  • Don’t Rush – Make the decisions and be sure before you ask anyone. It’s much easier not to ask someone to be in the wedding party than to ask them and want to make changes later.
  • Be realistic – If you live in the Bay Area and your best friend is going to school in NYC, they may miss some of the pre-wedding festivities like fittings or the engagement party. If he or she can make the wedding and you are willing to make the sacrifice of not having your bestie there for every event, you should still ask.
  • Don’t forget siblings – You may have friends that you are closer to than family, but when you look back at the pictures in years to come, you’ll be glad to have your blood relatives in the wedding party. If you are estranged from a sibling, this may even help you to reconcile.
  • Shoot for 5% – Your wedding party should be 5% of the guest list or less. If you are only having an intimate group of 50 people, there is no need for more than 1 or 2 bridesmaids and groomsmen. If you are having a wedding with 200 guests, sure, go ahead and have your 10 best friends be in the wedding party.
  • Don’t give in to guilt – Just because someone asks to be in the wedding party doesn’t mean they should be (it also shouldn’t automatically disqualify them). This is your wedding. You should decide who is in the wedding party based on positive emotions – not feelings of guilt.

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